Comments on: Who Should You Travel With? Part 1 of 3: Why Traveling in a Big Group will Make you Crazy and Possibly Homicidal http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/2009/08/who-should-you-travel-with-part-1-of-3-why-traveling-in-a-big-group-will-make-you-crazy-and-possibly-homicidal/ Why Wait to See the World? Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:41:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Steph http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/2009/08/who-should-you-travel-with-part-1-of-3-why-traveling-in-a-big-group-will-make-you-crazy-and-possibly-homicidal/comment-page-1/#comment-2995 Steph Mon, 19 Apr 2010 15:17:09 +0000 http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/?p=285#comment-2995 Yeah, I think a small group makes it easier to focus on the places you are visiting as opposed to being distracted by social forces. Yeah, I think a small group makes it easier to focus on the places you are visiting as opposed to being distracted by social forces.

]]> By: Sasha - On UR Way Travel http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/2009/08/who-should-you-travel-with-part-1-of-3-why-traveling-in-a-big-group-will-make-you-crazy-and-possibly-homicidal/comment-page-1/#comment-2994 Sasha - On UR Way Travel Mon, 19 Apr 2010 13:45:52 +0000 http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/?p=285#comment-2994 Group travel some of the best and worst moments of my travels!!! I think the worst moments I had were travelling in large groups. It becomes a bit like high school popularity contests and rumors. Not to mention you spend so much time either focusing on only a few people or trying to get to know everyone just a tiny bit that it's difficult to make really good friends. I much prefer travelling with just two other friends. A small gang who are all able to accept that we all have different interests and need to sometime pursue them on our own! Group travel some of the best and worst moments of my travels!!! I think the worst moments I had were travelling in large groups. It becomes a bit like high school popularity contests and rumors. Not to mention you spend so much time either focusing on only a few people or trying to get to know everyone just a tiny bit that it’s difficult to make really good friends. I much prefer travelling with just two other friends. A small gang who are all able to accept that we all have different interests and need to sometime pursue them on our own!

]]> By: UrbanTravelGirl http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/2009/08/who-should-you-travel-with-part-1-of-3-why-traveling-in-a-big-group-will-make-you-crazy-and-possibly-homicidal/comment-page-1/#comment-12 UrbanTravelGirl Mon, 17 Aug 2009 01:29:03 +0000 http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/?p=285#comment-12 Ah... the joys and nightmares of traveling with a group. I've had both -- fabulous trips with small groups of girlfriends and family members, and not-so-great ones. You're SO right that just because you get along well with folks in one setting, it doesn't automatically follow that you'll have a good time on the road. And if you happen to be the friend who knows the other parties well -- but they don't know each OTHER well -- you could be in for a rough go. I've also had my trips "hijacked" by folks who, as your post said, told two people, and they told two people, and so on, and so on.... These days, if I don't want company or "add-on" travelers, I keep my big mouth shut and don't tell folks when I'm planning a trip. If they find out about it, it's too late for them to buy a ticket and come along. I've also become a HUGE fan of flying solo, as you eliminate all the drama inherent in traveling with other folks. My advice: Talk things through BEFORE you leave. Find out if your friends will get offended if you occasionally want some "alone time." If they'll be judgmental if one of you meets a guy and wants to go off on a date. (I've had friends act quite unpleasant when that's happened to me.) And sort through your "roles" (who'll be the navigator, the foreign language translator, the timekeeper when you're heading out together). This can eliminate a lot of the misunderstandings and hurt feelings later on. UrbanTravelGirl www.UrbanTravelGirl.com Ah… the joys and nightmares of traveling with a group. I’ve had both — fabulous trips with small groups of girlfriends and family members, and not-so-great ones. You’re SO right that just because you get along well with folks in one setting, it doesn’t automatically follow that you’ll have a good time on the road. And if you happen to be the friend who knows the other parties well — but they don’t know each OTHER well — you could be in for a rough go.

I’ve also had my trips “hijacked” by folks who, as your post said, told two people, and they told two people, and so on, and so on…. These days, if I don’t want company or “add-on” travelers, I keep my big mouth shut and don’t tell folks when I’m planning a trip. If they find out about it, it’s too late for them to buy a ticket and come along. I’ve also become a HUGE fan of flying solo, as you eliminate all the drama inherent in traveling with other folks.

My advice: Talk things through BEFORE you leave. Find out if your friends will get offended if you occasionally want some “alone time.” If they’ll be judgmental if one of you meets a guy and wants to go off on a date. (I’ve had friends act quite unpleasant when that’s happened to me.) And sort through your “roles” (who’ll be the navigator, the foreign language translator, the timekeeper when you’re heading out together). This can eliminate a lot of the misunderstandings and hurt feelings later on.

UrbanTravelGirl
http://www.UrbanTravelGirl.com

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